Saturday, October 10, 2015

In the trunk: what women want

Men don’t need to see themselves reflected back to themselves in a relationship. They need to see themselves reflected back as some sort of hero. Women want to see themselves reflected back as being competent in relationships.



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19 comments:

Trooper York said...

Women want what woman want....men don't have a say in it.

deborah said...

Too easy. What would you say are the percentages of relationships where women get their asses kissed versus the ones where men get their asses kissed?

edutcher said...

Not a freakin' clue.

ampersand said...

Some men know what women want, Or at least know how to convince them that they want it.
Like Phil Donahue or whoever designs those clodhopper shoes they keep falling down wearing.

Trooper York said...

It is easy. The percentage correlates with the amount of money the man has. The more money and power he has the more his ass is kissed. It's that simple.

bagoh20 said...

"Women want what woman want....men don't have a say in it."

"Too Easy."

Unless you are trying to give her that, then it's simply impossible.

"What would you say are the percentages of relationships where women get their asses kissed versus the ones where men get their asses kissed?"

I don't know if that was asked as a rhetorical question, but my impression is that it's not clearly one sex or the other getting their ass kissed most of the time, maybe close to 50/50, and most of those are doomed. A good sharing of the ass-kissing will lead to happiness, bliss, and tons of sex.

A big problem is that even if when someone is getting their ass kissed most of the time, they often see it exactly the opposite. So, just as in politics, truth is what is so hard to get to because it takes a back seat to what people want to believe, especially about themselves.

I don't know if anyone cares about advice from a man who has never had a bad relationship, but still never married, but it seems to me that a very important point that both parties need to remember is that demanding ass kissing is a big mistake, but giving it without being asked is magic. Try to be first giving and last wanting it.

bagoh20 said...

Oh yea, and what Trooper said: Money makes a man's ass cute and kissable. That could work in the other way too if women wanted it too, but they don't, which is kind of a bummer for all of us.

bagoh20 said...

So I just talked the posted question over with my lady.

The word competent is a problem. It's insufficient, and it's dismissive of a man's role and value. According to her, a woman needs very strongly to be seen as a competent partner when their are children to care for, but if not, then she wants to look in the mirror and see a woman that has her man's love, passion, and respect. I think that although being the hero is important to the man, what we really want to see in the mirror is a man that our woman loves, is passionate for, and respects.

We want the same things. Shouldn't that make it easier to understand each other and stay in love? It should, but we are stupid creatures.

Trooper York said...

I never wanted to be a hero.

I only wanted to be a hot calzone.

deborah said...

Bago, I think you and your lady are saying the old chestnut; for a good relationship each party should give 60%. That is, don't keep score.

Troop, money can definitely put the man in the driver's seat, but I know couples where the women crack the whip/throw fits for the most part. It's like the men comply because the women think they're worth it, and so engender the respect of the men. Complexity abounds.

deborah said...

Good one, Amp. Fashion designers are brilliant at that.

ricpic said...

In days of old when knights were bold and relationships hadn't yet been invented,
They married young, stuck it out through thick and thin and ended up cemented.

edutcher said...

I once read the definition of someone's One True Love as someone who can ring his/her partner's bell so consistently that nothing else matters.

So, like a lot of things, forget everything else, it's just about tickling their fancy.

Bleach Drinkers Curing Coronavirus Together said...

Women want to be entertained, to feel that they're "special" (either because of what's "represented" by the guy they got or how he actively tries to "make" her feel), and to feel a sense of possibility or future in it. They want to feel secure with a rare deal.

Men (in America) are lucky to even find a woman with the personality of a liverwort.

So they make do with the prettiest and sexiest one they can find. Until she bores the hell out of him, too.

Women don't have to try very hard in America to find something decent. But the trouble is, most of them aren't easily satisfied.

It's like how the economy works. You have to have infinite growth, but infinite growth takes never-ending demand.

And you can't keep demanding more and more if you're satisfied with what you've got.

American women know this. Since American men have to justify their economic existence in order to have any self-worth, American women fulfill the role of judging that self-worth. It's a version of the same Darwinian paradigm since the beginning of evolution. The variation brought about by male DNA represents the majority of evolutionary change in a species, so it's women who get to sit back, look pretty and choose and judge the "best" novelties they can find. They get away with this by virtue of a higher male sex drive at the ages when this matters, which clouds the judgment on what is actually worth pursuing in a lifelong partner.

The only way in which this is reversed is in terms of physical attractiveness. Most species, it's the males who are colorful and exhibit fanciful visual traits in order to attract partners. In humans, it's the women who do that. But men are supposed to make up for that by being ostentatious socially, "successful" socially or culturally, and not just physically. It's a much bigger space in which to compete.

ricpic said...

You're a torrent of ignorance, Schmendrick. Tower of ignorance also works.

Bleach Drinkers Curing Coronavirus Together said...

Tower of ignorance also works.

For you I'm sure it does.

Just because you come on here pretending you're going to marry a shiksa doesn't mean you actually got your dick sucked.

chickelit said...

Rhythm and Balls said...

Just because you come on here pretending you're going to marry a shiksa doesn't mean you actually got your dick sucked.

I presume that "shiksa-bob" refers to the actual act.

Skewer that!

Bleach Drinkers Curing Coronavirus Together said...

Lol.

Now if you could only get "Shcmickprick" to appreciate a joke. He's like the old Jew who had too much prune juice and forgot how to laugh.

Seriously, have you ever met anyone as humorless as that guy?

Methadras said...

Women want you to be all things at all times. Believe in that what you will. Your mileage may vary.